Is infertility an opportunity to make the world a better place?
O-Ollie asked:
Through adopting unwanted children. Perhaps this is natures way of caring for the unwanted.
Lekisha
Through adopting unwanted children. Perhaps this is natures way of caring for the unwanted.
Lekisha
January 24th, 2010 at 7:14 am
Eusebia
good idea
January 27th, 2010 at 6:58 pm
Lovella
You can interpret infertility in a number of ways. Let’s face it, we’re an overpopulated planet with millions of poverty-stricken people, one less person reproducing is a good thing for our environment.
January 30th, 2010 at 1:48 am
Hortense
If a woman is told she can’t have her own child, she dies inside. I can see where you’re coming from but having your own child, if you are a responsible adult, means everything.
January 31st, 2010 at 11:12 pm
Carola
i dont think so..every one wishes to have children from their own sperm and egg not the other’s sperm and eggs.lol…but a serious fact….
regards,
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:20 pm
Gladys
That would be a blessing wouldn’t it.
February 5th, 2010 at 3:23 am
Tempie
well yes… that is a very good way to look at it… im not but im still gonna adopt when im older cuz yeah… i wanna have a little girl.. hehe
February 7th, 2010 at 2:54 am
Lester
No I do not agree that infertility is an opportunity to make the world a better place. You should adopt children because you want to not because you have to.
February 7th, 2010 at 5:42 pm
Serafina
Bless You Ollie….for all the effortless YA points you afford us!
ETA: Ollie I decided to put a little more ‘effort’ in my answer to you. “Nature’s Way” is Fertility…in all life forms on the planet earth. If ‘infertility’ was truly Nature’s Way…you wouldn’t be here asking these not very well thought out questions. Nor I answering your not very well thought out questions.
February 8th, 2010 at 8:01 pm
Reva
Are you freaking serious?
My infertility (nor does anyone else’s) does not make the world a better place. Nor is it nature’s way of caring for the unwanted.
I think you’ve been on this board long enough to know that most children aren’t unwanted. Is that how you see yourself? As unwanted? You should really find your mother so she can set you straight about why she relinquished. My guess is you’ll be very surprised.
And BTW, it seems like there are plenty of fertile APs around too. What is in their ‘nature’ to make them want to adopt?
Actually I think treating women with dignity and respect regardless of their ‘mistakes’ or ‘shortcomings’ in ALL cultures in combination with treating the children of these same women might make the world a better place. An effort to give these children a ‘better life’ with their mothers should be a priority instead of giving them a (maybe) better life with strangers.
February 11th, 2010 at 4:04 am
Eden
Speak for yourself…YOU may have been unwanted but most adoptees are very much wanted.
Infertility as a way to save the world? From what?
Give me a break.
This question is offensive on all levels.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
February 13th, 2010 at 4:57 am
Christie
No.
I think education and manners will.
February 13th, 2010 at 5:31 pm
Lessie
Infertility simply means one is unable to conceive and carry to term. There is absolutely no correlation between fertility and parenting abilities.
February 15th, 2010 at 7:52 pm
Eartha
Wow. This is pretty offensive on a lot of levels.
We’ve heard it said over and over again that it isn’t the responsibility of the fertile people to provide the infertile with babies.
I’d take that one step further and say that it isn’t the responsibility of the infertile people to take care of all the “unwanted” children in the world. Being infertile is not a requirement for adoption or fostering, yet somehow when someone says they are infertile, suddenly the burden is place entirely on their shoulders.
There are children in the world that need homes and it’s everyone’s responsibility as a human being to do something to make the world a better place.
February 19th, 2010 at 5:43 am
Birgit
Well, at least you’re finally being honest about your name.
Really, Ollie? “Unwanted” children? Other than the very, very few that end up in dumpsters, do you REALLY think there are tons and tons of unwanted kids just roaming the streets ANYWHERE in this world? You’re so deluded it’s frightening.
February 21st, 2010 at 10:40 am
Ivey
sounds like someone has a savior complex…
February 23rd, 2010 at 7:25 pm
Ivelisse
I’m sorry you think you were unwanted.
Jennifer, that deserves a standing ovation.
Fertility and parenting are two completely different topics that shouldn’t be smooshed into one.
February 24th, 2010 at 8:10 pm
Loyce
Infertility is not going to make the world a better place. Simple human compassion will.
February 24th, 2010 at 10:24 pm
Jasper
I hope when you say unwanted children that you are referring to kids in foster care, but that’s still not nice to call them that.
But from what I hear most babies are wanted. I wanted my children so people looking to adopt and parent other people’s children need not ask if I would like to adopt out my kids. Those crazy people are the reason I don’t take my infant out in public to often.
And not everybody that adopts is infertile in case you didn’t know. People adopt their family members, people adopt from foster care to help children that actually need homes, and most often adoption occurs by a step parent. WOW.
Thank god for all the wonderful infertile people looking to adopt all the unwanted children in the world. (Rolls Eyes)
February 26th, 2010 at 4:06 am
Leonie
i agree with Jackie B. i think you should seriously consider finding your bio mom. You’ll be suprised what might have been kept from you.
And no, it doesnt make the world a better place. How dare you trivilaze what is such a heart breaking subject for many women.
February 27th, 2010 at 12:58 pm
Maurine
I find it interesting that you equate Infertility with becoming an Opportunist.
I’ll agree with you on that point.
February 28th, 2010 at 10:59 pm
Emmett
That’s assuming infertile people make better parents. I know for sure there are an abundance of people who can’t and should have children.
I think most of the time infertility is natures way weeding out dangerous genes like cystic fibrosis, 98% are infertile, but if they were not, we would have a much higher rate of CF.
Infertility is typically associated with other conditions that may cause harm to the baby or mother, like Thyroid problems, Acquired diseases, Blood clotting issues, Genetic diseases, lifestyles incompatible with parenting I think in most cases, the the issue is resolved, the fertility returns.
March 3rd, 2010 at 6:16 am
Christena
Infertility can be an incredibly horrible and sad affliction. Everyone has an opportunity to make the world a better place, regardless of fertility status. Also, most of the children who need homes are older or have health problems. There aren’t nearly as many infants who need homes as families who want to adopt an infant.
March 4th, 2010 at 6:56 am
Evalyn
Wow. You managed to bash everyone all at once. Good job.
I’m unwanted, my birthmother is an abandoner, and my adoptive parents are infertile. That’s how it is huh?
What a small minded view of the world.
March 4th, 2010 at 6:43 pm
Adela
That doesn’t even make sense… at all.
Nature doesn’t care about unwanted anything. Nature is the food chain, global warming, natural disasters etc… Nature isn’t able to care, it doesn’t have emotions, hell it doesn’t even have a brain to emote with.
March 5th, 2010 at 12:17 pm
Christene
Nah.
March 6th, 2010 at 2:33 pm
Tegan
As most infertility is preventable, your question really makes no sense.
“If you chop off your arm, will the world be a better place?” Wanna volunteer? Sounds like an interesting experiment.
The greatest causes of infertility is (1) damage from STDs such as chlamydia and (2) for women, waiting too long to get pregnant, as female fertility begins to decline around age 27. Yes, there are other factors, but these are the number 1 and 2 causes.
If a woman waits until her 30s or 40s and then tries to conceive, or if she has not practiced safe sex before trying to conceive, are we supposed to feel sorry for her? Are fertile women supposed to hand over their children to her?
PLUS what are you defining as an “unwanted child”? Certainly you cannot mean unplanned pregnancies, as 48% of all pregnancies both inside and outside of marriage are unplanned and unexpected.
So, assuming a woman has decided to carry her pregnancy to term, do you force a woman to decide *during* her pregnancy if the child is wanted or not? That is coercion as there is NO way she an make an informed choice before recovering from birth. That’s the tactic adoption agencies use on mothers in order to get them to surrender babies while under the influence of pregnancy and birthing hormones. It’s called exploitation.
Nature did not invent adoption. Not unless Nature began 158 yrs ago. Fostering, yes. Adoption, no. So, quit promoting the fairy-tales!
March 6th, 2010 at 8:08 pm
Carola
Wow, now I’ve seen it all.
Yes, all the ills of the world can be solved by infertility. Feed the homeless to the hungry eh?
March 7th, 2010 at 7:11 pm
Ramonita
No, not specifically infertility. There are children out there who genuinely need homes, and they should be taken in by families who will love them, whether as adoptive parents or guardians depending on the situation… but it doesn’t have anything to do with the parents’ fertility status. Whether or not the parents can conceive, adoption should be about the CHILDREN who need homes, not filling an emptiness the parents feel.
Fertile people are no less able to provide a loving adoptive home. Wanting to parent a child who needs a family should be the underlying factor, not fertility or some view of changing the world.
March 9th, 2010 at 1:08 am
Leanna
Yes. Yes, I see it all now. I’m off to get an unnecessary hysterectomy so I can save the world!
March 9th, 2010 at 3:12 am
Emily
No. Sorry you were unwanted by your mother Ollie but if it didn’t bother you as you say – you wouldn’t be spending so much time trying to bait people or start trouble. You’ve morphed into a pesky little fly.
March 11th, 2010 at 9:31 am
Edmundo
No… its just how it is. I stopped justifying it years ago with explanations. We became a family when my husband I git married. It began there, we extended our family through adoption. Just how it is…