Is normal to be nervous about infertility?
Dadof4Kiddies asked:
I am a 25 year old man. My wife and I are going to be trying for our first baby in a few months.
I am a 25 year old man. My wife and I are going to be trying for our first baby in a few months.
I have no reason to think I might be infertile. But I am still nervous that we won’t be able to have a baby.
We have been wanting a baby for sometime and I am worried our dream of being parents won’t happen.
My wife’s doctor doesn’t think she will have any problems concieving either.
Is it normal to worry like this?
Stephenie
January 29th, 2010 at 10:13 pm
Lucas
yes, but try not to. just worrying about it can actual make it physically harder to achieve!
relax and enjoy those last (hopefully few) long lies, late nights out etc
January 31st, 2010 at 12:57 pm
Tyisha
it’s normal but not healthy…
you and your wife are both healthy and young so just let it happen naturally. these days, even if one of you has a problem it can be treated.
i’m in my 30s and ttc my first and i know the feeling. but, my husband and i decided to relax and just let it happen. we are charting my daily bbt to keep track of things but other than that we are just letting it happen naturally.
good luck to you both!
February 1st, 2010 at 11:12 am
Earle
do not worry that might make it harder to concieve. Just relax and let nature due its thing. Me and my husbandfreaked out and over obsessed about everything and could not concieve. once we got fusterated and decided to take a break from trying for a little while I got pregnant. If you stress about it i think it will take longer than if you just remember to have fun. Remember that now there are so many differant things you can do if you are infertile so worring about it now is just silly
February 4th, 2010 at 7:25 am
Birdie
go get checked out so you can stop worrying about it.
It won’t hurt, you just get stuck in a room and have to get yr ’specimen’ in the pot. Unless you live close enough to the hospital
Then they tell you how your little swimmers are doing.
may cost you without a legitimate medical reason though - not sure
February 4th, 2010 at 12:09 pm
Edna
Sure it is, just relax and enjoy the experience of trying to conceive. If you are worried you can go to your doctor and have a sperm test. Even if there is a low count or problems, do not give up. You can go the IVF route. As men get older the quality of the sperm goes down, my wife and I had our last child using IVF. So good luck to you and your wife.
February 5th, 2010 at 12:17 am
Izola
Sure its notmal to be a little nervous. The good news is 80% of all couples will conceive within one year of trying. I would try not to be too concerned until a year has passed.
I found that the first few months of trying to conceive (Months 4 through 10) were the hardest. At least for me they were. When you want something that badly and you see so many others getting it without really trying, it can be difficult. But it gets easier as time goes by. Good Luck
February 6th, 2010 at 4:10 pm
Arletta
My husband and I have been ttc for many years, consistantly for 1 yr. It is very normal to be afraid of infertility. You will get all kinds of advice while ttc, like: just relax and it will happen, have sex in the missionary style, put a pillow under her hips after sex and so on… I have heard them all. Believe me when ttc it is almost impossible to not think about it all the time and just relax. If only it were that easy. You and your wife should definitely both be checked and if it doesn’t happen right away don’t give up. Babies are God’s little miracles and only he knows when the time is right. That’s what keeps us going. If you need someone to talk to that’s going through it please feel free to email me at Good Luck to you and your wife and Baby Dust to all ttc
February 9th, 2010 at 12:42 am
Lucius
Depends on who you are.
February 10th, 2010 at 8:56 pm
Carleen
I think it is normal for men and women alike to have this fear. I know when I started I was anxious because I was irregular and because my husband was not in good health (has asthmus and acid reflux and takes many meds for them) but we pushed our fears aside.
For us there was a problem…..polycystic ovarian syndrome….but we are receiving treatment for that and we have a good chance of conceiving. Even if we didn’t I know that I would be fine because it was just meant to be.
Just take it a day at a time and don’t worry. You will have 18 years of that and beyond when you do have a child. LOL